Does Your Life Suck? I Can Help with That

Stressed Businesswoman --- Image by © Royalty-Free/CorbisYou know that thing in your life that sucks?

Maybe it’s your job (or lack of one). Maybe it’s your marriage. Maybe it’s your health.

It could be a bunch of somethings. You’re allergic to pine trees but you live in the woods. Your tween needs orthodontia that you can’t afford. Your car has developed a disconcerting sound like safety pins being ground in a blender, but it never makes this noise for the mechanic. Your husband is acting different and you’re wondering if he’s ill or having an affair and it’s hard to tell which would feel worse.

I think some coaches do the world a disservice when they market themselves as sort of glamorous fairy godparents. They display their beautiful, seamless, jet-setting lives on Twitter and Facebook, and they imply–if they don’t come right out and say–that if you follow them and their formula, your life will be like that, too.

I’m not that kind of coach. My life isn’t pretty all of the time. Parts of it are weird. Some of it is downright messed up.

But here’s the thing, the truth I’ve lived and I know in the bottom of my heart that I can teach you: life doesn’t have to be pretty to be joyful. Life can be messed up, and still be awesome.

I have a chronic condition that puts limits on my mobility. I’m a single mom. I’ve had times when I’ve lived off my savings; I’ve had times when I came close to living in my car. I’ve been broke, bedridden, and abandoned.

And you know what? I’m happy.

Am I some kind of Forrest Gump–style optimist? Not hardly. I think I’m a realist—but I’m a realist who dreams big. I learned how to let go of the stuff that totally wasn’t working for me (that turned out to be a LOT of stuff). I learned how to work around the things I don’t have much control over, like how far I can walk each day.

I learned to love my life, figurative warts and all. And in doing so, I made a lot of room for new stuff to come into my life: a new career, a wonderful new place to live, new connections to truly amazing people. By embracing what is, I made space for what’s next.

So that thing that sucks, that thing you think is standing between you and happiness, that thing you think no one else struggles with like you do? Let me help you learn how to work with it. Or let me help you figure out how to kick it to the curb. Either way, you’ll end up living a life of joy, a life that works.

It might not always be pretty. But I know that it—and you—will shine.

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