What Color Is Your Rug?

rug pulled out from under you, maggie mcreynolds blogYou know, that rug that got pulled out from under you.

Jeff uncomplainingly put in 12 hours a day for 23 years, worked his way up from entry level to upper management, and met every deadline. None of it could save his job—or his pension—went the company went belly-up.

Diana and Harvey worked out together, gave what everyone agreed were the best dinner parties, parented three genuinely polite and lovely children, and never went to bed angry. It seemed like the perfect marriage—until Harvey told his wife he had realized he was gay and was leaving her for their longtime accountant, Tim.

Barbara is a non-smoking, non-drinking runner who ate organic food , drank filtered water, and meditates daily. She was shocked to be diagnosed with breast cancer last spring.

All of these people had the rug pulled out from under them. And, weeks and months and even years later, they are still struggling to find their balance and to move on.

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breaking free, Maggie McReynolds blog

It’s Not That Bad

Does it go like this?

It’s not like he hits me or cheats on me.

It’s not like I’m one of those morbidly obese people who can’t sit in airplane seats.

It’s not like I’m dying or anything.

Or maybe this:

I should be glad I even have a job.

Anything is better than being alone.

I shouldn’t complain–other people have it a lot worse than I do.

If anything in the above sounds even remotely familiar, this is for you:

It is that bad. In fact, it’s completely unacceptable. I don’t even have to know you to know that whether your suffering is small and made of constant erosion or huge and overwhelmingly intense, you deserve better.

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Ehhhh…..I shoulda toined left at Albuquoique….

When I was young, when there was no one to tell me I couldn’t and I hadn’t yet acquired any inner scripts that shouted out fears and criticisms, it was easy to get wherever I wanted to go.

I wanted to be a writer like my dad and my uncle, so I wrote a book in fourth grade that was “published” in the school library. Later, I won awards for my writing and eventually made a living doing it for over 20 years.

I wanted to be an actress, so I coerced talked all my friends into joining me in staging neighborhood plays. Later, I joined a repertory company and made a career doing voiceovers that continues to this day.

I wanted to live in Chicago, so I dropped out of school and moved there.

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